Gentle Teaching is not disciplining toward the alienated person; it is disciplined for the caring community. We have to carve out a structure in the midst of chaos and within the dark cloud of heavy, damaging memories. We have to find ways to enter into this chaos almost without being noticed with the idea to simply be near the person with, at least, a slight hint of being with the person. There are no tricks or recipes to do this. Some general tips are in our initial actions in this encounter-to-be. Our mere presence should be marked by a sense of peace, humility, and the only reason being to be near the individual and then perhaps a sense of being with the person. We have to understand that our mere presence can be frightening and burdensome since it is often the case that the marginalized person simply sees” us as jut another caretaker who will be mean, devaluing, and bossy. This seeing us as simply another in a long line of caretakers places us at a tremendous disadvantage. We should present ourselves quietly, moving slowing, and reassuring the person that we only come to rest. As this takes root, we can then perhaps move closer, maybe touch the person’s shoulder, smile warmly, look into the person’s eyes lovingly, and try to create a cycle of this “approach.” This initial approach, almost presenting ourselves invisibly, is the first structure that eventually unfolds in various dimensions such as increased participation, seeking our caregivers, sharing, and participating in the caring community.