• Safe means a sense of self-dignity  because “My care givers sees me as whole and good.” It also means  that caregivers have to teach each person “You are safe with me!” My  hands will never harm you! My words will never put you down! And, my eyes will  never look at you with disdain!” Feeling safe gives a deep sense of being  at peace while with caregivers. And this spreads eventually to others.
  • Flinching in terror at someone’s approach  begins to disappear and is replaced with a calming sensation and a feeling of  relief. The teacher can now walk up to the child and the little one feels  relaxed and attentive. The parent can walk by the child in the living room and  the child feels a sense of warmth. The man who used to curse and hit the  caregiver now looks for a warm embrace. The woman who used to run away now  wants to be with her caregiver.